Prologue: Sort of a thank you post. Just recollecting the time when I was going through the black period (read it here, if not already)
I was personally, in a very dark place, and at that point in time, my mind wasn’t allowing me to open up to anyone. I had shut out friends and family for a while, and nobody knew what I was going through. I had resorted to a few coping mechanisms, and then, a new friend from ESCP emerged. V.P.
A little bit about her: She’s of the ISFP personality type (Take the MBTI personality test, here! It’s awesome, it tells you about you, but it tells you about what you should become too. A lot of companies use such tests to shortlist students, mention you personality type in the comments below). As per google, she is
“An Adventurer, with the Introverted, Observant, Feeling, and Prospecting personality traits. They tend to have open minds, approaching life, new experiences, and people with grounded warmth. Their ability to stay in the moment helps them uncover exciting potentials.”
So, naturally, she isn’t that much of a texter/ communicator. But she does have some amazing thoughts and perspectives.
She was the one, because of whom, the idea of writing a blog even crossed my mind at the first place (You may check her blog out, here, it’s pretty amazing, and you’d be able to spot how a professional blogger blogs!)
I met her just once, for just around 10 minutes, after a company presentation. We met via a common friend, and in those 10 minutes, I think I was talking breathlessly, and too much. I exchanged contact numbers with her, and told her that I’m gonna plan for some drinks with all the students in our common groups.
Fuck you, Covid-19, I’m still waiting for that drink.
Anyway, we chatted for a while, and it used to be pretty random. And the day I thought I had to write something, I reached out to her, asking about the same. When I told her that I’m writing to cope up with an emotional problem, she did extend a helping hand, and she became very eager to read the article that I’ve written. It was amazing. My blog is gonna be read by someone who is experienced!
Here’s what she had to say, when she read about the rebound story (here):
[1:46 am, 21/05/2020] V.P.: Real things take time. Relationships nowadays, idk what people crave out of those. And you’re not lonely. You’re just not looking at the people you’re blessed with.
[1:47 am, 21/05/2020] V.P.: Not always it is the case that your soulmate should be a person. In fact, a soul doesn’t need a mate. It’s just that you need who can be there for you, emotionally, mentally, physically.
[1:48 am, 21/05/2020] V.P.: But don’t underestimate yourself.
And after this, when I asked, she opened the can of worms, an experience that she had before, which was, well, not similar to this, but was used as an exhibit, to explain what kind of coping mechanisms are there. I was too much into the conversation, listening to her intently.
She was my accidental psychologist. It literally felt like I was talking to a very rational person, who actually went all the way back to her tough experience, and explained me how she went through it. It takes great courage, to live the bad experience and come out of it, unscathed.
My god, this woman is unshakeable. She’s strong. I’ve already started idolising this idea, this theory of everything, for a life. I was in awe of her. I still am. Probably will remain in it.
To make thing even better, she told me that she’s already working on the draft of a new article. I’ve been bugging her busy ass repeatedly, asking her to write a new article, and she came through, with an amazing article, titled: Sometimes you outgrow people – and it’s okay. You may check it out, here, it’s not a long piece, but definitely an informative one.
Thank you so much, V.P., for opening up for me when I needed it. I know it was really tough for you to open up, and I know how my persistence might have become irritating sometimes 😛
Epilogue: I think this is a great time for me to give a shout out to some of my other friends, who went back in their pasts, and had the courage to talk about some dark things, and how they successfully moved on with it.
R.C. is currently preparing to join as an HR Student in TAPMI, I wish her all the best in her endeavours!
D.L. is currently interning at a name-brand pharmaceutical company as an H.R. intern, I wish her all the best, and I’m not gonna jinx anything by writing about getting a job anywhere 😛
Strong women like you, slap and straighten everything out, and bring stuff back on track. We definitely need more and more people like you in this really fucked up world, with some really fucked up people.
I wish no one has to go through whatever I did, and if they do, I hope they find this blog, and are maybe able to draw some much needed insights for themselves. Life is how you take it. Mental peace to all, emotional stability to all!